Dating father issues
You just grab whatever’s on the shelf that makes you feel good right now.When women don’t grow up affirmed and acknowledged by their fathers, they’re like hungry shoppers. If you had a father who’s cold and distant, you don’t know how to relate to men in another way.Unless I'm some freak of nature (always a possibility) there's a strong likelihood that a man you're dating could be a dude with daddy issues all his own.Let me tell you the most important thing before we go any further: this is a man who needs and deserves love. He's got a hidden (or not so hidden) anger His friends describe him as the life of the party. Something as simple as fallen quiche could send him spiraling.He was protective, doting; there was an element of wonder. There wasn’t open emotion or talking about feelings. If I needed support, he’d always listen to me, back me, and respect me.” Thanks to that tender example, Charlotte only chose men who loved her without question: “It’s possibly why I went for older men too.
They were both so reliable, and strong.” My own father – who died 18 years ago – always grinned at my rotten jokes.
“If you have a good relationship with your dad, then you’re not desperate for male approval: you’ve already got it.
If you’re used to being well-treated by your father, and you don’t have to be perfect for him to love you, that’s what you’ll expect from other men.” Sadly, the opposite is also true.
Less coy is my friend Charlotte, 52, an artist; proud to admit that her romantic relationships have been defined by Daddy.
“I was the pretty little blond-haired girl, after three boys,” she says, “which for my father was quite special.